So I broke my crockpot last night.
You heard right.
I broke my crockpot. You know the cooking appliance that you throw ingredients in and leave it to cook all day. You pretty much can’t mess it up….yea. Somehow I found a way to ruin mine.
I wanted to try something new. I tried a recipe for home made bread in the crockpot. It sounded easy so I gave it a go.
Now I probably should have realized it was a bad idea when the instructions stated to place the inner liner of the crockpot in the oven at a high temperature for over an hour. The actual heating element of the crockpot….the part that makes it a crockpot...wasn’t actually going to be used.
So I followed the instructions as written (something that I don’t normally do but I was hoping to prove to my family that I could follow a recipe). I heated up the oven. Put the crock pot with all the ingredients in and…poof….after some time out came my experiment.
It didn’t work.
This is nothing new for me, or my family. I’m used to things not working in the kitchen. I began cleaning my mess. I noticed something wrong with my crockpot, there was a sticky cloudy coating on the inside. I scrubbed and scrubbed. It wouldn’t come clean. Then I realized…it wasn’t a stuck on mess…the glaze had come off… grrrrrrr.
Now I’m not sure but I don’t think I can use a crockpot in this condition. The glaze seals the pot so it’s safe to use…but it has to be used properly. (I think they remind people to use appliances properly for a reason. Lesson learned.) Apparently putting the crockpot in the oven at a high temperature falls outside meaning of “used properly”.
Sharing my failed bread making attempt with my husband, he blurted out, “If you wanted a loaf of bread why didn’t you just get in the car and go get one instead of trying a new recipe and ruining the crockpot?”
“It wasn’t the bread I wanted. I wanted to try something new.” I responded.
We both found each other to be funny. He looked at the entire endeavor one way and I the other. The bread was the desired result but we assumed two different goals. Mr. Practical was about securing a loaf of bread. Miss Inginuity was about experimenting with creativity and innovation.
Isn’t that like relationships? They are formed by two people with different mental, emotional and relational DNA. When two people assume the wrong things about one another, crockpots get ruined. Many disagreeable moments happen because we fight over how to fight. We misunderstand one another. We are familiar with one another but we don’t know one another.
One loaf of bread. Two ways to get it.
How many arguments happen because we only relate one way – our way. How many fights ignite because we react instead of respond, or we posture ourselves to be the right one instead of listening or asking questions to better understand? Just because we are in a relationship doesn’t mean we know how to relate. Just because we are in a marriage doesn’t mean we know how to be married. We are siblings but struggle to feel like family. We c0-exist with other workers and fail to collaborate. Friends wonder how to be good at friendship.
The point is, relationships don’t always get used properly.
I didn’t realize that crockpots in a high temperature oven for a long time is a bad idea. I was unaware of how to properly use it. I didn’t think I needed to read the owners manual. In the same way we don’t realize we need to go to school on relationships. Having a relationship isn’t the same as being in a relationship. Friendship isn’t automatic when you are friends.
Who knew we need to learn to be a learner of those we live with and love?
Who knew crockpots could be ruined?
Who knew relating to others requires learning how?
Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. ~ I John 3:18